TAKING CHARGE OVER ANGER Anger is more than just an emotion, It actually has physiological effects that occur along side of it, ranging from sweating, to increased heartbeat and blood pressure. It is not as simple as just being either angry or not. it is a bit more complicated than that. However, there are varying degrees of anger. most a times, it is usually some outside factor that leads you to becoming angry such as hunger, stress, depression, circumstances or thirst. Even the happiest of people experience moments of anger from time to time. Only when it gets out of hand or to be a problem is really something that should be worried about. When we feel that emotion that riles us up, we also feel motivated. At first knowing how best to act is difficult, but in time the emotion of anger can drive us to create something innovative to solve a problem. The same way we innovated the idea of retaliation when angry, can be used to create something less destructive to oneself and others. Most times, we may not know how much damage our anger has caused someone else either physically or emotionally.in other words, when we realize that we are having hard time managing anger, we might need to look more closely at how our lives are being structured. Well, the positive fact is that anger teaches us to cope because we can easily work at ourselves and answer a few questions. Hence, solving the underlying problem in this situation means planning and being more organized. I could remember back then when I was still a little bit younger, I aways dash out my anger on my elder brother over the slightest issue. Funny enough, I noticed that he hardly retaliates immediately, instead he will leave me in the scene, ranting till I probably get tired. As little as he was then, he understood the fact that retaliation would be more harmful and decided to manage his anger by walking away. as time goes on, it made me understand that there was a need of mutual communication instead of yelling at the top of my voice over something that could be solved amicably. In his own way he believed that walking away at that moment was the best option to handle anger in a positive way. More so, we can as well try to resolve different kind of situation that triggers anger in different ways. The first criteria is acknowledging the fact that you are angry when you feel like it, instead of bottling it and later turns them into accumulated grievance. Try as much as possible to correct those that hurt you immediately in a polite manner no matter who that person is. In most cases, anger caused by circumstances should be best treated by a counsellor or an accountability partner. in same vein, try as much as possible to pour out your heart to the person, if possible cry as much as you can to relief yourself. In situations you can't handle at the moment walk away and try not to think about it for sometime. In other words, the best approach is Usually solving problems that caused anger in the first place and being assertive. It could be a little bit demanding, but will save a whole lot more #omahwriting #onlinecounselling #writinginspiration